Yesterday, I shared with us that Forgiveness is one of the decisions you must make to have marital success. You can read it up and the other two decisions I have previously shared here
Today, we will be looking at the fourth decision you must make to have marital success.
4. Decide to make your Spouse the most important person in your life.
This is another decision you must make if you desire a marital success. God designed marriage in such a way that the man and woman leave everything including father and mother in order to be joined as one. The moment you say "I DO", your spouse becomes the most important person in your life. The value and importance you place on something, determines how you treat that thing. The way you treat your spouse is a function of the value you have placed on your spouse.
Apart from God, no one is as important in your life as your spouse. You know why?, your spouse is not just another person, he/she is a part of you. The two of you come together to become one flesh. The way you value your life is the way you should value your spouse.
The greatest assest you have is your spouse and the earlier you see your spouse as such, the better your relationship with your spouse will be. Even your children are not as important as your spouse. Your children are part of the family and of course they are important part of the family but your spouse remain the most important person in your family.
So, it will be an error to allow your children, friends, business and extended family get most of your attention than your spouse. You have been covenanted to live with your spouse for the rest of your life. You have become one flesh with your spouse. So, nothing is as important as your spouse.
The reason some people abuse, maltreat and abandon their spouse is because they have not seen their spouse as the most important person in their life. Your spouse is a treasure that must be cherished, valued and treated with dignity, care, respect and honour.
You must honour your spouse. Everybody wants to be treated with honour and as important and your spouse isn't an exemption.
You see, until you decide to make your spouse the most important person in your life, you may not see and treat them as important. Your decision will make you to be committed to treating your spouse with value and honour.
Marriage is really a mystery; it takes someone who understands spiritual realities to understand marital union better. Christ and the church is the perfect template for how marital union should be. The most important person to the church is Christ, the church is the body of Christ and the church is joined in union with Christ. The church is so important to Christ that He gave up everything for the church.
Apostle Paul was telling the people at Ephesus in Ephesians 5:22-33 about the love, value and importance Christ placed on the church - His bride. The bible says "Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish."
The love Christ has for the church made Him to bring out the best in the church. In the same way, couples need to love, value and cherish themselves and bring out the best in each other. The husband, like Christ, must love and bring out the best in his wife while the wife, like the church, must submit and honour the husband.
Is your spouse the most important person in your life? Do you treat your spouse with care, respect and honour? Do you see your spouse as a part of you or just another person in your life?
You can make the decision today to make your spouse the most important person in your life and see your marriage blossoming.
In the next article, will be sharing the last point. Stay tuned.
God bless you.